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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my fince have been together for 2half years.Im still at college which is my fourth year. He has just started full time working in a gym!we used to see each other everyday because we were on the same college course together and thats how we met etc. now we see each other once a week maybe twice if were lucky,but he think once i go back to college after the summer holidays,he said he doesnt know if he will be able to do it because we wont have enough time for each other:(sooo yep kinda annoyed at that because I dont know where I stand etc..he does like 8 hour shifts at work and wen he gets in he will ring me for like 5 minutes and then go to play on this computer console all night.I get annoyed at him because I wana speak to him,and when we do he always talks about himself,and when he finally finishes the conversation all about him,work,staff etc he then tells me he has to go to chill out,shalll I just leave to have his space?I dont know what to do any advice?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 September 2008):
Well if he's just started in his job then there will be a period of adjustment.
Give it a few weeks to see if it calms down. If he decided he wanted to marry you then he probably shouldn't be able to change this much this fast.
If he doesn't change then tell him you are considering calling off the wedding.
You need to know where you stand. Make him talk about what is going to happen when you go back to college. If he doesn't think your relationship is strong enough to last the horror of not seeing eachother EVERY SINGLE DAY then he doesn't have a lot of faith in it or you.
I think he is a bit immature to be someone's finace.
Be strong and do what's best for you - even if that means forcing him to admit his feelings aren't that deep. Then sell the ring and buy something prettier.
Good Luck!! xx
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