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writes:this is a terrible dilemna, and I would like to know what I should do. I don't know how to move on when I love someone and can't imagine anyone else ever being as special. I loved my best friend for a long time, but he has a girlfriend he's in love with, and he says that he loves her with all his heart and it's clear she's his life. Is it possible that he could ever love me back one day? Should I wait for him? I can't imagine anyone ever being as special, but I'm so scared that my life will pass me by! He's everything I ever dreamed of, I always wanted someone intelligent, sweet, who knows how t listen and understand feeligns, who loves music and I'm super attracted to mexican guys. I don't want to settle for someone I don't love, but every time someone is interested in me, it's someone who bores me to death or breaks my spirit. Just once I would like to have that perfect person who loves me back. Even if he were to love me back I can never forget how he broke my heart. Sometimes I feel like I should open up my yes to other guys but I already have my heart set on someone with those qualities? Thank you if you can help me, this is a real dilemna!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I have been in a affair, with a married man for almost four months. This affair was my very first. He pursued me.I was vulnerable and fell for him. It was not about sex for me, because altho I am married, I did not have sex with my husband because he only thought of me as a mother figure and not a wife. I have never missed sex, because it was not offered as it should have been when there is deep love. My lover made me feel like a new woman. I was very good to him also. But lately, I feel that he is lining up his next affair, because I notice that he is writing to someone and it is not me. He has been throwing out hints, that I shall be the one to end the affair. We were in this together and he wants me to be the one that leaves. I am heartbroken. I want to get even with him, but I won't. I really feel sad for his wife. I beleive she knows, but she does not keep him out. As sad as I feel, what about her feelings
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI met him in college a few years ago, where we became really good friends. We never had a relationship because I was only in his country for a year and then I returned to the US. I think that at one point he might have had feelings for me, but didn't want to ruin our friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): You have to move on. It's not fair to live your life for someone else. If he comes back to you--then at that time you can make your decision. If it is meant to be--it will be. Just don't wait for it to happen. You could be passing up the guy that truly is the one as you sit and pine for this guy. Life is too short--go enjoy!!
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (1 July 2008):
never settle for someone that you dont love as that wouldnt be fair on you or the other guy. rather then putting you whole life on stand still go out and enjoy sometime with your girlfriends. theres more to life then just this guy. the downside to this is that it is going to be tough. its hard to see the man you love with someone else but sometimes its best to walk away. dont be scard to live life by yourself, keep looking for those qualities in other guys and dont just say yes to those that are easy and comfortable, you are better then that. try to distance yourself from him a little giving you space to be your own person and to explore the othe opppotunities that are around :)
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