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writes:My boyfriend of about 6 months just broke up with me. We had a very loving, caring, laid-back relationship without any arguments with one another. It almost seemed perfect! We met at college, but then he recently graduated and moved about an hour away to a whole new place and started a new job. It was around the time of this happening that I noticed him starting to become depressed and overwhelmed easily (He told me at the beginning of the relationship that he had been treated for depression the previous summer, but stopped the medication when he felt it was right). This seemed understandable, considering the stressful situation. Things started getting tougher, and last week, out of the blue, he ended it. He said that he needed time to figure everything out and be alone for awhile. He said he was just confused about everything (even though hours previously he had told me he loved me very much). He said there was a chance that we'd get back together, but he didn't know when that would be. Both him and I know that I did my very best to be there for him through all of this transition, he even told me that I did nothing wrong to deserve this. He has told me that he still wants me in his life and that he would call me sometime soon. I already plan on giving him some space for now and trying to live my life normally without him...but what else can I do? I really love him and want to be with him more than anything. I can honestly say that he is worth it. He has always treated me right. Does anyone know what this is like? And do I seriously have a chance to be with him again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your replies. I have just been very confused and worried...on top of everything I posted above, I just wanted to mention that he also told me not have false hope and that I shouldn't wait for him. These are the details that are making me wonder how he really feels. Is he just being nice and trying to let me down easy, or is he just being painfully honest when he tells me these things?
I agree with both of your suggestions, I WANT to have hope...I just don't want to be hurt even more in the end. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Yes you have a tremendous chance at being together again...you need to realize that sometimes when a guy needs his space, he really does...if you know that he loves you he wouldnt leave you like that...it has happened to me when i was going through a tough time with family and i just started getting pissed off at the time, and i got scared that one day i would take it out on my girlfriend for any little thing that she did, and then everything would be ruined between us, so i decided to take time to calm myself down and when i was ready we got back together...if you think that he is worth the wait then take that chance, when he is ready he will let you know..and when he needs you for any reason, be there for him, but try not to smother him, just be there for him when he needs it right now
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Absolutely yes.
How: Never contact him or respond to his inquiries, any of his inquiries. I promise he'll check back in.
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