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writes:I have been chatting to a guy on the internet for a year, said he loves me, but can't give me what I want, says loves chatting etc, he has my address but I don't have his. He has never mentioned meeting, but sent flowers for my birthday. We are both in our 40s, with children, Am I wasting my time with him? I really enjoy chatting to him.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 I guess I just don't understand how anyone would remotely call this a relationship, chatting over the internet but never met face to face? FOR A YEAR? He's playing games and you, are you really wondering if you are wasting your time? Hell yes, you are wasting your time. And there's a good reason why he hasn't given you his address, think about it.
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reader, Mr Guy +, writes (16 December 2008):
 hi
it seems to me that he just wants to talk online. i would ask more questions. you never know he might have a wife or girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): He sounds married to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): hi,
thanks for your replies, i must admit everything that was said has crossed my mind before, but he seems so genuine. He lives a 5hr drive away and has sais it's a shame i dont live closer- and yes, i have seen him on webcam.
I think it's time to maybe ask a few questions regarding commitment etc .
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reader, ponycarebear  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Could he be fake? Have you seen him on the webcam?
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (16 December 2008):
 What do you want that he can't give you? If you guys have been talking for a year, it might be time to meet, if that's what you want. If this is the kind of relationship that you want then you're not wasting your time with him, but if you want to meet and get to know each other even more that way, you might be wasting your time. It doesn't sound like he would be interested in seeing you in person. I guess it really all depends on what exactly you're looking for in this relationship. Hope this helped.
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reader, vladscott +, writes (16 December 2008):
HiI think this guy is fixated with internet chatting and whilst he may provide you with some sensual things, flowers and of course time in chat, he is not able to commit to a real deep and meaningful relationship.He would of course like to keep this going as it keeps his interest and fantasy going but that I am afraid is the sum of his involvement with youYou could of course treat him with the same regard he treats you but at the same time I would be honest and search for a more meaningful relationship with someone who can commit
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