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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well, you see, my boyfriend and I have had sex 4 times before. But now he seems very anxious about it and never wants to anymore. And when we are in the moment and he mentions wanting to and getting a condom I go get it and by the time I get back he decided he doesn't want to anymore. And when I ask him to talk about how he feels about it; because I want to help he just gets quiet. Is there a way I can talk to him about this? Or if I can get him to feel less nervous. Is there a way I can get him to want to? To get him in the mood? I kinda just feel bad about it.. like he doesn't want me...Thanks
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reader, Charlie84 +, writes (19 August 2007):
Guys are very very VERY self conscience about their performance in bed and thus the size of their 'man hood' for lack of a better term. There are various reasons why a condom affects him. Maybe he can't maintain an erection while you run off to get the condom or he is scared the condom will be too large and thus destroy any personal pride he may hold in himself.
I would suggest that the two of you get tested for all STDs and then start on a regular prescription of birth control so that there is no lingering questions regarding the condom situation. It can take a really long time depending of the guy of course, to get used to being with a certain woman. What ever you do don't crack jokes or look down upon him for it because that will only make the situation worse.
You also may want to evaluate the way he views himself in every day life. Is he depressed or emotionally distraught? These, however seemingly small in retrospect, play a major role in how a guy handles himself in bed and other aspects of life. Just remember no matter how nervous or scared a girl may get, a guy can be just the same way even though they may play it off a different way.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (19 August 2007):
How old is he? If there is an age gap, maybe he feels strange about it and that you're too young.
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