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writes: My boyfriend has walked out on me after 5 years with no explanation. I don't think there is anyone else involved. We only had our engagement party back in December. We have suffered many losses through death recently, my father, his father and his friend. He went to his friend's funeral then split up with me the same day. Should I still try to get him back? He is always asking me if I have met anyone else and what I am doing. I am really confused. He never talks about his feelings. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2005): Give him time.It sounds as though he is still interested but does not know how to cope with his own emotions right now.Are you willing to wait - and perhaps be hurt if it doesn't fall into place? That's up to you hun.Perhaps he finds it difficult to talk to you about how he feels. Try listening? Its hard work but it may be worth learning. Don't get me wrong - it is a skill which a lot of us lack.All I can suggest is that you let him know you are there for him if and when he needs you. Let him know that perhaps you found it difficult to cope with his grief too and that you didn't know how to soothe his pain. No one can take that sort of pain away, so don't beat yourself up. That is all you can possibly do right now. IF and when he does come to you, LISTEN. Don't expect miracles overnight. Friends need friends... not necessarily deep into a relationship. Let time heal his grief and your relationship. I can't tell you it will ever be the same between you but you may find something stronger. I am hoping the best for you both.Good luck
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