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i have lived with my other half for nine years. i have always trusted him. he goes on holiday on his own , he goes out on his own, he basically does what he wants.
we have a mutual friend. she was his friend before she was mine. we have done lots of things together as friends. lately i have been feeling very paranoid about there relationship. i feel like my other half thinks more of his friend than he does of me. if weekend comes and we are deciding where to go , he contacts her first to see where she wants to go. its as if i come last all the time. by the way she is 24 and i am 38. i think he is abit infatuated with her. he says he isnt.i have had enough rubbish in my life to last a lifetime. i have a mentally handicapped daughter of 14 to look after and a very sensible 18yr old to consider. my ex husband was a complete knobhead . he thought that giving me a good hiding was the answer to everything. well , i dont know what to do . i have been to the docs for tablets. and although they have made me feel alot better, i still feel like i need to take charge of my own life. (though god only knows how im going to do that)what should i do . i dont have anyone else to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2004):
I think you know deep down that this man is treating you badly.How would HE feel if the roles were reversed? Do you think he would still be with you if you were to ask a male friend along every time you went out,let alone ask your friend where he wanted to go and expect him to just go along with your friends wishes.
Why would anyone in a relationship want to go on holiday alone without their lover or partner?Where do you fit into his life,other than looking after him?
This woman friend of his appears to be dictating the pace of YOUR relationship and he is encouraging her to do so.Does she not think it strange that he keeps involving her in your affairs?My advice,get rid of the both of them and regain your self esteem by going it alone and showing the world that you can cope on your own.
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