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writes:My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over three years. I love him, but my family is also very very important to me, and they live on the East Coast while he lives on the West. I've told him that I want to move back to be closer to them and he has said that he'd want to go with me, even though it's painfully obvious that he doesn't want to go and would be extremely uncomfortable living there. I don't want to put him in that situation, but every time I bring up the move he denies that he'd be uncomfortable and claims that everything would be perfect and wonderful. Is there anything I can do? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): you got a good guy there. i was somewhat in your situation. my guy lived on the east coast and my family and i lived in the south. while we were together (in different states), he always said he would move to where i was and live near my family. But i ended up getting a job offer in the east coast and we were together and moved in. It was so hard leaving my family as they are soooo important to me. But then i saw his true colors while we lived together and his family NEVER wanted him to move and they wanted to control our lives. And he let them. I couldnt see my family that often b/c he didnt want to go visit them. He always wanted to go to his family. It was not a good situation. i had to move back home w/ my family.....he did bad things to me and his family didnt like me. It was so drastic.sounds like you have a real winner there. talk to him openly and if he still says he wants to move with you..then start packing and start your future! All the best to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I really think you should talk to him about it, but reassure him it's wonderful that he's so in love with you that he would sacrifice his happiness for yours. It's amazing how strong some people's love is. I can understand why you're concerned about him, but the only person here that could be of any real help to you is him, so he's the one you must go to. Tell him that it wouldnt be a major problem if he decided not to move, and that you could still be together, but wouldnt be able to have contact maybe as often. He loves you and is trying to support you, so you support him. Good luck :]
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