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writes:I just got fingered by my boyfriend, we have had sex a few time before but this time when I got home I found blood and we didnt have sex. I can't go to the doctors because I'm not allowed to be doing this. I'm really scared and would love it if someone could tell me whats wrong with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Farris  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 If you're too young to face any of the consequences of sexual activity maturely, then you shouldn't be doing it.
The bleeding is fairly common in girls who are just becoming active, and can also happen from a fairly rough session. It's nothing to worry about, unless the bleeding doesn't stop within a week (And you're sure it's not your period). If the bleeding doesn't stop, then you really should just suck up your fear and go, because it could be something serious.
Consider this experience next time you're thinking about getting intimate with a guy at such young an age.
Best wishes.
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female
reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 First of all you are too young to be doing things like this but of course you know that! It could be that he had a ragged fingernail and that's what's caused you to bleed. It could also be that your hymen (the thin membrane at the opening of the vagina) has been broken. Some hymens are thicker than others and it could be that yours has been a little thicker, hence the bleeding.
In any case, I would use this as an excuse to tell your boyfriend you don't want to do that any more as you're not old enough and the fact you bled has frightened you. You really don't have anything to worry about (in my opinion) but he doesn't need to know that! I would strongly urge you though to refrain from doing what you're doing just in case the next time something more serious DOES happen... like you falling pregnant and your boyfriend being charged for having sex with someone underage!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): my boyfriend has fingered me and i also bleeded too it's normal though it's just that he poked a place too hard and it just bleeds.don't worry nothing is wrong with you!!!!enjoy the finger!!!
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reader, agony aunt j +, writes (17 March 2007):
 ok. your only young and already having sex, so it is expected to bleed. i cant really say whats wrong with you, im sure its nothing serious. but please tell me you are using protection when you sleep together! have you told your boyfriend? i know it can be embarrassing. i'm taking it your parents dont know right? well whether you tell them or not is up to you, but you should definately go to the doctors if something strange happens. as embarrassing as this might be, and although you know they know it's wrong, they wont judge you -t hats what doctors are there for and im sure you can arrange to see a doctor in confidence meaning they cannot tell your parents, but i'm not sure. Maybe cool it down for a bit and let your bf know your worried.
be careful, sex at a young age can be exciting but dangerours. make sure you always use protection and clean.
good luck
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reader, tkay1032  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Ok I hope your being protected if you are as young as I am assuming. You need to calm down. It is normal if he was a little rough. Be careful dear.
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