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writes:I am having doubts about my relationship. We have been together for 6 years nearly and living together for 1 year. My boyfriend is the best anyone could ever wish for, he is kind and would do anything for me and I know he loves me so much but lately I have been wondering what it would be like to be with someone else and I am finding I have feelings for another man. He doesnt turn me on anymore and I wonder if I am still in love with him. I do love and care for him, my family love him and his family love me and I dont know what I should do. I dont want to hurt him and I feel like if I ended it I would be leaving so much behind, please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 It's not necessarily that you don't love him, the relationship has just become mundane. Just like the next one will should you end this one. You have to work at keeping things alive. There is no magic or hocus pocus. We're all people and we get bored. As for attraction to another guy, if you let that though get away from you, you'll be in trouble. That will seal the fate of your relationship with your boyfriend. Why? It's because a new romance will seem like fireworks when compared to your comfortable romance with your current guy. Attractions are nothing if you don't nurture them. If you play one out and you happen to be in a weak moment with your relationship, you may cheat. Don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I have felt this way before, I think it happens when you get used to being with someone. The spark kind of disappears and the 'honeymoon phase' is well and truely over. So you feel that you love him, but youre not inlove with him?
Try ways to bring the sparkle back, do things together that excite you. if the sex is dull, try something new! kinky underwear or sex toys. You must have soemthing if you have stayed together for all this time. BUT dont bring your families into the equation, think about the 2 of you, not them. If you need some space, how about taking a holiday? alone, or with the girls. If you really feel its the end, then it might be best to move on.
Just keep in mind - the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
good luck xx
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