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writes:Hello, I have been married for six years. At first like every relationship everything was ok. But now my husband always critisizing everything I wear or do I seem to get on his nerves. He recently caught an STD but I got tested and havent got it I was furious and wanted out of the marriage as I just feel he doesnt love or respect me enough to do that. He is always on the internet to the website tagged singlw which I find is offensive. Why would you be advertising yourself as single when you are not. I just feel silly now for giving him a chance when time after time he is just disrespecting me. I just want out of the relationship now I can do much better than him. I want to leave but cant seem too dont know how. I do love him but he doesnt seem to love me at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): I am in the same boat and my man gave me an STD. I am so hurt and I want to leave him but the doctor told me that he could have had the STD years withot knowing but everytime he leave the house I never trust him but I know I love him. So I wanted to know how it felt to cheat so I went out there and cheated but I use condoms and its not so bad so if you love him and dont ant to leave then go out there and cheat too but make your partner scrap up!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 October 2008):
Tell him you want him to leave. You and the kids can stay and he can go and use someone else's computer to line up all his disease ridden dates.
Kick him out.
If he refuses to leave then pack a bag and go and get a solicitor to tell him that since he has thrown you (and the kids if you have them) out, and been in the wrong completely, you are going to take him for everything he has.
I am sure you have friends or family with a spare room. Just pack a bag and go. It's as simple as that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): look, walk up the door, and WALK OUT AND NEVER RETURN, this will move the WORLD to ASSIST you on whatever u must live then... I know how it feels so there is nothing u can do to change another, he will not change ever and u are hooked to him cause he is better than nothing. You do not love him, nor he loves u. You think you do, cause u are used to the guy, and because he knows that u are there regardless, he can step all over you. WAKE UP!!! Life can bring the joy u want, but you need to want it first! Get some respect on your life and MOVE ON. Solutions will come your way once you have made the choice. But if you stay out of pity for yourself, thinking poor him... probably u will next get STD too. Open your eyes and be willing to be alone, then life will bring u better options
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Unless he stops this behaviour then your only option will be to leave as he would have made is choice, personally and I don't often say this I think you have suffered enough Adultery, exposed to an STD and your husband flaunting that he's looking for 'love'... well sex. It is clear that he doesn't love you, he certainly doesn't respect or care about you either by the tone of your post.
How to go about breaking up well if you have joint accounts open one in your maiden name and start to disentangle your finances. Then if your serious go and see a solicitor and take sound advice you already have grounds for a divorce (if you need them at all these days). None of us who have gone through divorce really know where to start it is not something any of us plan for when we marry, I found the hardest part was accepting that I had to call time, that it was over. Once you have taken the first step a divorce solicitor will advise you on what you can expect from your estate, one thing is that if you do go for a divorce or seperation then remember that items like the plasma telly or the fridge freezer or microwave can be replaced and aren't worth fighting over. The hard part is taking the first step and that is a choice for you to make in your own time and when you feel ready.
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