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writes:Hey. Well, im a bit of an idiot! My guy friend (who i wanted to be more than a guy friend for aagggeeeesss) asked me out... and i said no?!im not even sure why really ... i know there is stupid stuff like he's a year and a bit younger than me and things like that, but i also suffer from anxiety and ive got a bit of a commitment phobia.. :L but im not sure how to talk to him about it, or how to explain it! Cause i'm sure i like him, im just not sure if i want to be in a relationship... yet i want to be more than friends.. As you can see, im a little messed up :( :L hahaaha!But Please, any tips would be much appreciated :) thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Well in doubt, don't do anything.
The fact you are unsure is a big red flag that says you are not ready for a relationship of any kind.
Romantic or sexual.
It is OK to be single and not have a boyfriend.
Your brain and your body are telling you that you are not yet ready for this. When you are, you will feel happy and confident about the decision.
Stay friends and see what happens in a year or two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut im too scared to because of how i act sometimes.. :/ my feelings change so quickly and easily, i wouldnt want to hurt him by suddenly changing my mind yet again :(
he is one of my best guy friends after all ... x
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reader, Read-the-signs +, writes (14 May 2012):
No need to worry about committment at a this stage, stay cool, and ask HIM out. If he looks a bit puzzled, just say you have reconsidered. Keep the mood light, just see how things develop.
Good luck!
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