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anonymous
writes:i'm having a few problems with my boyfriend at the minute.we're going to florida on holiday this year for a week and we're going to london for his birthday (which i've paid for)..we are both students and both work part time. the only difference is that i have my mum and dad, and he hasn't.we spend too much money, granted.. but the things we do, we save for and plan for. as i've come back from uni for the summer, i intend on working as many hours as i can.he has all of a sudden turned around and started saying that he hasn't got what i've got and can't afford to do things. he said he appreciates going to london but he hasn't got the money and he can't say no to me. he says it makes him feel not good enough when i want to do something and we can't afford it.i told him that we are no different, as just because i'm with my parents, doesn't mean they pay for me. i use all my earnt money and all my savings to pay for things.he just makes me feel like i'm spoilt or made of money, when i'm not at all. he makes it seem like i'm in a different class to him or something stupid. though he knows i don't care about money.i don't know what to do or say because it really upsets me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your advice.
i've realised the reason why he's been saying these things & it is, as you rightly say something much deeper than money.
i know the trip to london is quite expensive, but i just wanted to treat him as he's had a rough time & i think he just deserves someone to do something for him for once.
at the end of the day i just want to see him happy.
& your advice really helps me see clearer.
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