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writes:Hi me and my bf have been really struggling for a while - i dont have time to go into detail. We have the opportunity to spend the whole weekend together this weekend but I want to know, is that a good idea? The idea is that we get to chill out and have some intimate time togther but the relationship has become quite toxic and i'm worried that it might be better to be apart and have some 'space.' Wondered what you all think; be togther or apart when the relationship is close to being over, which it is? Neither of us really wants to split up, we just both have so many problems as individuals.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): I agree. Have a heart-to-heart. And try to arrange some fun things to do together too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): Hey there, thanks for that. We are both exhausted, partly due to work, he has a very stressful job and I am realising that I am quite an insecure person and can be really controlling, i.e. not liking him going out with his mates. He is planning to go out with his mate next weekend and already my backs up! I need to sort it out, it's not like he goes out much, I think the last time was a month ago.
We've done a LOT of talking and in a sense I think we are talked out but I am so looking forward to spending the weekend with him. Not sure about the no booze thing, but we will certainly take it easy in that respect, we like our good wine too much. God Bless x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (25 May 2011):
 use the time to sort out your differences. make it your make or break time- you cannot carry on like this. do something nice with your time together, go walking somewhere and TALK. no alcohol (it doesn't help)
plan together what steps you are going to take to get help for your individual problems, and then stick to what you have both promised to do, as soon as the weekend is over make your phone calls to get the help you need, whether that be therapy or help for other problems
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