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writes:I know this girl kind of. I know her online. She's a few years younger but it doesn't seem like it. We dont plan on ever meeting but we talk alot ~ often daily until recently. About 7 months back we had a kind of disagreement about my girlfriend of a month ~ reina. I'd told Lila (the online girl) and she said it doesn't sound good I didnt believe her but turns out reina and I had problems and it didnt get solved because we were too different and we broke up a month later (we dragged the break up on too long).......... I apologized to Lila for basically being rude to her and defensive about reina when in truth I went overboard and Lila was only looking out for me (within the boundaries;; she didn't overstep any marks)......... Lila and I started talking again but it was like she avoided my conversations about reina or girls in case she offended me but I assured her she wouldnt but idk.....Most people I know would probably think Lila was just a stupid teenager being 17 and I'm nearly 22 but I know she isnt so idc what they would think so I dont tell them......When we 'met' about 9 months ago we had kind of the safe views on relationships and sex which I found slightly odd because shes 17 and alot of them want to get out there and sleep with whoever they think they love for a month but she doesnt ~ we both agree on the idea of relationship before sex not the other way round until I met reina on a night out with loads of girls and guys I know. We got busy and thats how I started dating reina and so on. That kind of changed my view well it definately did so now I'd have sex with a girl I do or dont know. This definately changed the dynamics between Lila and I because she probably thinks I'm just like all the other "think with their dick" guys and I can see why I suppose but she wouldn't ask me to change because we're just online friend's and she wouldn't want it to cause another argument. Since reina and I started (and ended) we've been talking less and less and I kind of think I miss our conversations but I don't know if I should send her a message or if I'm that bothered or not. I don't know. What should I do now? ? ~ M.T.
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reader, N91  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 If you miss her, tell her? No good just waiting around hoping things will change. Ask her if there's a problem with you guys, try and sort things out if you want to speak to her again.
Good luck.
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reader, MarlonT +, writes (25 February 2012):
This is me by the way; just set up an acc.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 You're assuming she thinks these things when you have no idea what is the deal with her. Maybe you could ask her.
You could send her a message telling her you miss your conversations, but you can't force her to talk to you.
I think it's more of she's a teen who is branching out into the real world, instead of sitting inside on the virtual one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): M.T. here.
At the end I dont know if it was clear that I think I miss talking to Lila not reina.
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