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writes:Is it normal to think about your ex, but being with someone new? I dated my ex over a year ago and I broke it off. A year after our break up, she had already a boyfriend for six months, and still called me. We started meeting up regularly , having sex too, a lot of infidelity and cheating going on and pretty much picked up where we left off ( while she still has a boyfriend) I had stuck around and waited because she said she would eventually leave her boyfriend, but after few months of waiting for it to happen, it did not...Fast forward to now, I have a new girlfriend for few months now, but I still think about my ex all the time and yearn to talk to her and see her. The good thing is, I have NOT communicated with her since I got my new girlfriend. I have disciplined morals that forbid me to do anything taboo, but I miss her like crazy. I don't know what to do. I do like my new girlfriend, but does this mean there is something lacking in my life? Maybe she will not be able to compare to my ex..,?Do i leave my new girlfriend because my heart still is with my ex? DO i keep it a secret knowing that my ex will eventually fade away into the dark corners of my mind? (move on)Do i contact my ex and discuss this with her without telling my new girlfriend?Anybody help make some meaning to this!
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reader, delightful84  +, writes (29 November 2011):
Its a shame you are with this girl before you are ready for another relationship. It would be best all round if you end it and let her get someone who adores her. The ex wont be able be exclusive to you or anybody. She wouldnt know how to.
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reader, yanna58 +, writes (29 November 2011):
Your ex is bad news. She has no morals and no consideration for other people.Why do you love her? Her actions don't sound too lovable.More importantly, remind yourself of why you broke it off.To answer your specific question: yes, I think you should end things with the new girl. She deserves someone that doesn't think about another woman.You say you have morals, but yet you had no problem having sex with a woman that was in a committed relationship. It's called cheating. Your actions don't imply that you have a high ethical code.Break up with the innocent girl you're dating and take some time to actually practice what you preach. If you have the morals you claim to have, take the necessary time to forget about your ex, and only then begin dating.What you're doing right now is wrong.
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 My ex, who I dated for over three years, came into the relationship absolutely longing for his ex. He would mention everything from what she ate to how she had sex, which was not easy for me emotionally, but made it so that I was essentially able to nurse him through it and completely eliminate her. If you care about your new girlfriend, you should be honest with her and explain your messy break-up. You don't need to tell her that you are still in love with your ex, but just mention that it was an intense time that has left you somewhat emotionally delicate. Try to give this new girlfriend time, especially if she cares about you enough to really listen. Even if it doesn't last it will be a good step in moving on, because I guarantee you are going to be led on a wild goose chase by your original girlfriend if you let her.
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