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writes:Ok , my friends ( a mix of boys and girls )and i at P.E. always talk about dirty stuff and we were asking eachother would we give someone a blowjob or would we go down on someone in the group, and my friend random says ( he's a boy) he would go down on me because i'm hot. I said that i would seriously give him a blowjob because i probally would .. i think he's cute not dateable cute but just to mess around with... and now he's asking me if i could give him a blowjob next week... he actually wanted one theh same day at school. i may come off that way , because i am kinda dirty, but i don't think i would actually do it. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. But, in the future, you could avoid the situation altogether by not saying you will do these things when actually you don't want to do them. Keep it up and you will be known as a tease.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (31 May 2009):
 Hi there, I don't want to come off as preachey, but I want you to think about the fact that you are very young. You will meet many men who will want you to do many things. First of all, talking about doing something and doing it are two different things. Try not to say you will do something, just to impress those who are listening, that you are ready to do it. This is what has happened, he now is basically calling your bluff, even if you like him, that is not reason to do something you don't want to do. Once boys or men have what they want from you they usually move on to the next girl who respects herself and does not give in to their wishes. Men and boys like a challenge, if a girl or woman is too easy, what is there to fight for, she gives it all at once. Set your standards and do what you feel comfortable with, not what everybody else is doing. Pregnancy and verneral disease or aids are not jokes, aids can kill you. A man's semen carries the HIV virus, you can check with a doctor to prove this fact, if he has the virus it will be in his semen. If you have a cut in your mouth or your gums bleed, you are susceptible to getting the virus through having semen in your mouth, THIS IS A FACT. It's not party time, this is your life you are dealing with. Do not be afraid to tell the young man that you really are not interested in giving him a blowjob, tell him you were just running your mouth. Don't let him talk you into anything, even if he gets angry, so what, he will find another girl who will perform his wishes, and believe me he will. Let him, if a man or a boy does not respect your wishes, you should not be with him. Please read some books on safe sex or talk to an adult you trust. Build up your self-esteem and be your own best friend. When you are sick with crap or possibly pregnant, people may send you flowers, but they will think you were stupid for getting into such a fix. Young people are easily lead, because they are growing, as you get older, your fortitude will increase. I am glad you wrote, please protect yourself from harm. Go out with boys, have a good time, but set limits, go so far and don't lead them on, because they will not like it and they will think you are a tease and you don't want to get that reputation. Hang out with people who have goals in life, who have value systems that they follow which tell them when something is not right to do. Apologize to the young man, if you have to but make him understand that, at the time you said what you said you were thinking differently, don't back down. Believe me, you will be happy you stood your ground, if he really likes you, he will still talk to you, if he doesn't, what have you lost, NOTHING! There are too many fish in the sea. Do what you want to do, not what somebody doctates, but remember don't lead men on by promising something that you really don't want to deliver. Stay in touch. Take care.
Love yourself, you are the one you wake uo with every morning, you have to respect yourself, or you will become very depressed. Be good to yourself.
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