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writes:iwas or still am in a serious relationship as we were to be married. 12 years with this man. ups and downs in jail out of jail i was his only support system. i but once again just got out of jail 1 week ago and i have not heard one word from him. i think he is with someone else . is our relationship over after 12 years or is it something that he is going through.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (23 August 2010):
How do you know he's not in some kind of trouble? i mean you did say he just got out of jail! what was he in for (drugs) and if that is the reason you can be a sure he is out getting more. honey, none of it's good! he just got out of jail! i feel bad for you not sorry for you but you have got to go through something like this why don't you just chalk it up and find a good life! for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Be happy, and get on with your life. Find someone who's NOT a felon to date, and let him be supported by the woman stupid enough to have him... oh, BTW... if he's with her, you were NOT the only one supporting him while he was doing time... she was too!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Jail changes people, and it also makes petty, opportunistic criminals into perpetual, career criminals due to the people they meet inside. If he is a serial offender then it doesn't suggest there is a 'Happy Ever After' ending to this story. He could have been released only to violate his parole in some way that has sent him back inside. He could have decided that he was a fresh start this time, but doesn't have the courage to tell you. The fact is that either way you are backing the wrong horse. It cannot be much fun being a lone support system to a jailbird. I am all for giving someone a chance to reform, but if he keeps getting in trouble then he will continue down that path. In the meantime, you are the only person with any faith in him and he keeps disappointing you. If he has no-one else then he may come banging on your door when he is down on his luck. Don't let him in, take this as an opportunity to move on and find someone less complicated to offer your support to.
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