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writes:I met this guy online 2 year ago. To begin with he was just a cool friend then i got to know him and fell for him and same goes for him. I have loved this guy for an incredibly long time now and I know I do love him as Ive never felt this way before and its something I cant quite explain and for the first time I struggled to say it to him, it took me more than a week. I could actually go on but im gonna leave it at I Love him.Well Im from the UK and hes from Canada. Im finally going to meet him next month. But thing is, I can only afford the flights so I am actually going to be staying at his house with him and his parents.His mum didnt know about me until 2 weeks ago when he asked and shes clearly allowed this but is worried im some psycho and all that (I do not blame her at all because she doesnt know me so I fully understand where shes coming from) and she is also in denile of mine and her sons actual relationship by the sounds of things.My question anyway is....how do I come accross as a nice, friendly person and not scare her. I dont mean that im a mean and nasty person because im not, i just mean that when im nervous i babble alot and i dont want her to think im a freak. And any tips and advice for when I meet him? Im going to be at his for 2 weeks, thats alot of time together even tho he still will have to go to work so it wont be a 24/7 thing. Im really nervous. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Its perfectly natural that you'll be nervous as this is the first time you will meet him in person.
Just be pleasant to his mother, and courteous. You might want to take her a small gift - some British teabags, perhaps that she can't get in Canada, or English chocolates, or something, to show appreciation for her being willing to have you stay in her home.
If you know you tend to babble when nervous, take a deep breath every time you're tempted.........
Finally, bear two things in mind: as good as an online relationship is, its not based in the real world until you actually meet in person. That's not to say you haven't enjoyed the online interaction, its just that this is the way life is. Online isn't the same as meeting someone and spending time (months) with them and seeing them when they're in a good mood; when they've had a bad day, etc.
Also, how likely is it that you'll be able to meet again in person, given the distance and the fact that you don't have a lot of money? Can he visit England? Because if not, you might need to consider just enjoying the visit for what it is: a pleasant episode but not something that has much prospect for a long-term, more serious relationship.......sorry if that sounds like a wet blanket, but you do need to be aware of what you want and hope for....
But I hope it will bw very enjoyable for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Nervous is good (: means you are thinking and not jumping into this relationship without thought. After two years.. it's safe to assume you are not a nutter. Be yourself.. the lovable girl your boyfriend fell in love with. This is an excellent adventure! enjoy! ~/~
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