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writes:It has been a long time since I have dated and I am really interested in getting back out there but I guess I have difficulty finding people I am interested in. I am in my 20s and I am normally attracted to guys a little older (in their 30s or early 40s). I haven't dated for about 5 years and I just really need advice on how to do it, how to have a successful first date and any mantra you guys use to calm myself about the situation.Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (5 March 2009):
 What "type" of guys would you like to date? Those who like books? Arts? Handy around the house? Sports? Science? Techies? Domestic?
Then go to places where you will more than likely meet them!
Bookshops ... if you see a guy (in the age bracket that you like and NOT wearing a ring) on his own and in the same section of books that you like, "pretend" to ask for advice on interesting reads by certain authors ...start the conversation from there. :-)
Arts ... go to museums, festivals, exhibitions, strike up a conversation there ... visit more than once if necessary. 10 years ago I met a wonderful guy who I later dated for a year, in a theater while attending a film festival. I sat next to him, and we struck up a conversation as we both came without any friends. Arts enthusiasts are a minority, so it is a bit difficult to ask my regualr friens to go :-(
DIY shops ... lots of men looking for stuff there. I'll bet these men would feel so macho (and useful LOL) if you asked them for advice ;-)
You get the drift? I don't think I need to explain about those other "subjects" and "places" ..
Have fun!
Cat
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