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age
41-50,
*on570
writes:So i have been dating this girl for almost a year we have talked about marriage having kids, then she finds out some bad medical news then tell me she needs a break, some time alone. she still calls me 3 times a day, still have sex talk for hours on the phone. So how long should i give her before asking her to go back to normal we now see each other once a week, or am i blowing this out of proportion?
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reader, wornoutmommy +, writes (16 January 2011):
 She probably doesn't want to drag anyone else down with her medical issues. I went to school with a boy that was told he wouldn't live to see 18 and absolutely refused to date anyone. Now at 27 he's overcome that fear and has married- but still with the knowledge of having a much shorter life than others. I would honestly sit her down and talk about how you feel about her medical issues. She may not want to ask, for fear of feeling guilty or selfish-the possibility of wasting your time with someone that may be terminal. If you're ok with it, then tell her-this will help give her hope about the medical issues. Ignoring her and stepping away will only lead to dismay and she'll be even more depressed about the issues at hand. However, this conversation needs to be done in person- and make sure to watch her body language while you talk about the way you feel.
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reader, bubbly001 +, writes (16 January 2011):
 You should give her some space. She has a lot on her mind and needs time to think. She will appreciate the space.
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