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male
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend or ex as of a few days ago has basically put an ultimatum that I get help for my 'issues' or goodbye!It's complex, this has been a very close friend for more than 10 years. We dated for a couple of months when we first met 10 years ago for about 3 months. It didn't work out, I don't even remember why, but we always stayed friends. I have moved all over the world since then, been married, divorced, cheated on, broke a heart, had mine broken... Through all that, we stayed in touch, kinda left our own personal worlds seperate when we talked, but always we hinted that we may make one he'll of a couple if me could cross paths again.Well, we did. It was magic, but had some real dynomite under it, first of all, there were no secrets between us since we were special friends for so long, she even knows about things like my crazy night out in hong kong, (don't ask).. She also knows I've had to seek help for my anger issues resulting in some pretty nasty verbal assults in my years. Now, she has huge insecurity issues, so I drive 700 miles round trip every Thursday to sunday, to see her. I'm not rich, but I've shared everything I had extra. I also love her daughter like my own, and don't go out or present myself in situations which my inflame her for one reason or another. But now she has severe anger issues, she once stuck me many times in the face while I was laying in bed, for no good reason. It really was a mild arguement by anyone elses standards that caused it. I quickly forgave here. She has verbally abused me multiple times since, I have reacted poorly a few times and said some mean things in self defense. Anyhow, she explodes over nothing all the time, to me, her daughter, seen her do it to her mom too. I love this woman with every inch of my body, and I'm far from perfect, but she refuses to acknowledge her anger issues, and instead uses mine (which I'm on mess for) as an excuse for all of our problems. She gets soooooo mad if I say anything about it to her though. I just want a compromise. But she refuses to see herself and her actions and instead puts all fails on me. I'm so confused.
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