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writes:Just need some honest advice. Spoken to friends but noone i know is really very experienced with long distance relationships. Were both at different colleges and so we were in a long distance relationship. Few days ago we broke up and its tearing me apart..im putting on a massive charade pretending everything is ok but its eating me up. We are both in second year of uni and have been going out over 2 years..i love her to death. She has a very sensitive character though and i think the last few months have really gotten to her and she has been finding the long distant relationship hard. I think she finds it difficult without the physical contact and misses it..phones and webcams can only do so much. Anyways she told me she was finding it really difficult and was really upset. I told her it was natural for couples to feel distant when we dont get to see each other very often but it doesnt mean we dont love each other. When we are together we both feel so in love and ive never met anyone i get on better with than her..were like best friends too. She gets so stressed though because she is SO busy at college to the point were i think shes finding it a chore to keep in regular contact like taking half an hour out of each day..she told me shes so busy that shes not missing me like she should. So i told her then maybe she would be better off single and that we should end it. So we did but i know her well enough to tell that she stills loves me..last thing she said was that she does really love me whilst in floods of tears.So yeah she said she doesnt know how to give me what i need whilst away from each other which makes her feel distant even though she still loves me.Its making it impossible to let go though and move on because i know she still loves me and i feel like this incredible thing is coming to an end when i know if it wasnt for uni everything would be perfect. So need advice what the fcuk should i do?Also ive told her ive gone no contact for a few months to try get over it which sucks because shes my like my best friend too? im worried though if i do leave it long enough she may rebound with someone else because im not there for her and i know what a delicate place shes in at the moment and then i dont know if i will be able to take her back.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Is there any chance you can visit her? The physical proximity may be enough to re-kindle the relationship.
Certainly do send her a valentine greeting this month.
Phone her up and tell her how you miss her so much. Don't leave it so long. If she means the world to you then tell her this is so.Don't leave her wondering. Perhaps you were hasty about ending it. She is possibly suffering too, thinking you ended it because that was what you wanted.
Best of luck with this, it does sound like true love on both sides.
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