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writes:My boyfriend of 9 months and I recently broke up because he was indecisive about school(university) and went back home to another state. When we broke it off, it was a clean break-up, basically we both agreed it was the best thing to do. But now that he's gone I miss him terribly! I've tried soo hard to forget him and get over him but I feel like I can't continue without him. He hasn't mentioned getting back together with me, the few times we have spoken, so it makes me think he doesn't want to or doesn't love me enough. Should I let him know how I feel anyway? Should I tell him I want him back? Please Help!
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (8 January 2006):
What was the reason for that split because that reason hasnt changed even though you are apart.
Move on and let go of the past because by hanging onto the hope that you could or might get back one day is stopping you from living in the present and moving forwards to a new future with someone who will truly love you as you deserve.
The past can never be recaptured;the present is now and the future is something to look forward to so make the effort.
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reader, flipdrew +, writes (8 January 2006):
 NO!! There are things called phantom pains (when someon gets an arm amputated, they can still feel pain in their arm even though it's gone) If the break off is recent, you are most likely experiencing something similar. You weren't happy in the relationship, but, over time, you forgot the bad parts and all you see is the good that was there. If you get back together, it won't be long before you are reminded of the bad again. Give it time. If you feel the same way about him in several months, then persue it, but do not fall into the trap of "history means security" it will be hard, but wait. if the feelings don't pass in a couple months, then talk with him, but I guarantee that if you get back together now, it will be an "on/off" relationship.
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