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*abbycristal
writes:I am 22 years old and i am in love with my first cousin which is also 22 years old. i live in texas with my boyfriend and two kids and he lives in chicago (no kids). when we were 5 or 6 years old all our family and us lived in mississippi. We got caught kissing by my mom and we got in trouble. After a year or two our family went our seperate ways. I really never saw him again, we texted or talked on the phone but nothing serious. When we did see each other i was to scared to talk to him because of my feelings. i recently went to chicago for about two weeks. When i saw him (omg) i hugged him and our hug was very different then my other family members. the following night we had been drinking a little not alot and we were alone and we kissed it was amazing all our feeling were bursting in air. i never thought he felt the same exact way as me a couple nights after that i gave myself to him, it was beautiful. now all of our family knows they are ok with it but not my mom. i told my boyfriend everything and we broke up now i am going to move to chicago to be with him(cousin) oh yeah my mom dose not want us together becuz my cousins (the one i love) parents were first cousins and my uncle murdered my aunt and then he committed suicide she is scared it will happen again she said when the same blood gets together nothing pretty happens. Am i wrong for what i am about to do? We really love each other.
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reader, sweetlove +, writes (18 October 2010):
 I have been going out with my first cousin for years now, and i have never felt such an undescribable chemestry with anyone besides him, and i have never made actuall love with anyone except him, He is ten years older than me, When we first got together, i felt like the only one who still excepted me was my uncle, his dad, my mom acted like she hated me and still really wont talk to me, my aunt stopped talking to me, and alot of old friends started calling me names and such but after awhile those friends relized how much they love our company, my aunt talks to me and the rest of the family dosnt really say much, You say you love him, then go for it, dont spend your life being unhappy just to please others, follow your heart. But I did want to say since his parents were first cousins and you two are first cousins, if you two had a kid, the chances of retardation and deformities much higher than if his parents wernt first cousins. Unless you guys dont want to have a kid, me and my cousin/boyfriend have a 7 year old, and he is the most handsome strong polite young man and makes straight a's. And hes lucky because he has a mommy and daddy who would do anything to see his smile, and a mommy and daddy that have a strong beautiful type of love, a love thats honestly hard to find.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): please consider the fact that *legally* what you are doing is considered wrong in most states. by society's standards, what you are doing is considered wrong. there will be a certain amount of backlash, confusion and judgement aimed at you and your cousin. with that said, if you choose that lifestyle and can accept the consequences of your actions, then as an adult, you are free to make that decision. also, consider the burden it will put on your children. and the possibility that your boyfriend can use this relationship as leverage if he decided to seek full custody of your children pending any legal battle for them.
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