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writes: Hey, How do I get my relationship to work again. My bf says he needs his space and he cant handle me, he said he needs to figure out what he wants in life. The trouble is everytime we have an argument or a dispute he always whats out just to run away from the problem. We r perfect for each other in my eyes and he once said this too but there are outside influences within the relationship such as his 'mates'. They were upset when we got together because he spent most of his time with me. Now we are on a break they are encouragng him to stay single. Im confused and I feel lonely. My life has been based around him for such a long time that I dont kno how to back off even when he says to leave him alone! I cant stop calling him, wanting to c and b around him. I cant stop crying and I know im doing myself no good but I cant stop. Im so stressed. How can I make him c we r meant for each other. Tve tried to give him everything I can. I want things to work so bdly. I cant eat, sleep or even function on coursework What can I do? Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): I don´t know, I understand your feelings I really do. When you love someone this deep it´s so hard. I think HE has to see that he is a part of your relationship, you know. Because you seem to be the one giving of yourself without reservation, you have a big heart. But he has to come to his senses and realize that, to make this work with you, he has to give of himself and start doing romantic things for and with you. If he runs from the problem, tell him that that is not the way to handle it, and that, if he really loves you and have said that you are perfect for each other once, then he needs to stay and clear things up and make up with you. Tell him he´ll feel much better afterwards. If you can talk somewhat, tell him not to listen entirely on his friends, but that you are his girl, and if you mean something to him he listens to you too. And that you want him to give your relationship a good chance. And, please, I understand you completley this thing with not eating not sleeping and so, but please try eat something. And if your sleeping badly, how long has that been going on? Because you should see a doctor and get a sleeping pill, so your body and soul can rest. Please take care of yourself.
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