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36-40,
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writes:For the past two days, I've been able to talk with my Ex after a breakup. During the breakup, we talked some, and then it just stopped. We've talked about the situation and she says that "if we are meant to be, it'll happen. Just not right now". She isn't looking for a relationship right now.She was dating a guy during our break, then that dropped too.We started talking again a few days ago via text message, and although she responds to everything I send/ask...she doesn't really initiate conversation. I don't text her all the time (like we used to) on purpose so she doesn't feel clobbered. I also know not enough time has passed by for me to start making assumptions, but it seems that she doesn't talk to me unless I initiate something with her first...but when I do, she's happy to talk.Well, we talked on the phone last night and I said I've missed talking to her. She then said that she's missed talking to me too. She said it in a pretty sincere voice, but I'm just not sure if she actually meant it (because of how she doesn't initiate conversation)Do you think she really meant it, or was just saying it to be nice? I'm not hoping that this meant she wants to get back together soon, but rather she is telling me the truth on how she feels - honesty in a friendship. We were best friends before and I'm trying to restart it and be friends for a while. When ending the phone call, I asked if she wanted to talk tomorrow, and she said she did.Maybe I'm looking too much into this. She's in college right now, has a job, and is working to get an internship. She stays pretty busy throughout the week. I'm just not sure what to think. It would just be nice to have that good feeling back about me being able to trust what she says.Thanks for your insight
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (12 October 2010):
who broke up first? it matters because if you did which it seems like you did, she is rtetracting herself from disappointment again. when u saw she is moving on u became more drawn to he bc the one thing u possessed was now someone elses. I am goign thru a similr situation except its pretty clear we are both on the page of if it happens it happens. kinda thing
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