A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone, Well my problem is my ex husband has come back into mine and my childrens life after being gone for 5 yrs abroad with another women. He is engaged to her and they have a son. But for the past month he has come to see me and the kids once a week, he gets here early but dont leave untill nearly 12 at night, and we are getting on really great, but now I have fallen back inlove with him. He dont get on that great with his fiance'e apparently ( as his sister told me ) so my question is do you think I should tell him how I feel? or would I be making a fool of myself? I always catch him looking at me and smiling, and I cook every week when he comes. The kis love seing there dad again so i dont want to jepordise anything , but I cant help the way I feel. we were together almost 10 yrs , but other things caused us to split. no violence or cheating or lying, what should I do ?????? sleepless in london :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your responses. Since I asked for your advice things have changed, sadly his fater passed away suddenly, Which has upset us all greatly. unfortunately it,s pushed him closer to his fiancee ( unfortuate for me that is) im happy for him that his ot support through this. I just realise now that he will continue to be with her for all the wrong reasons. Apparently there has been many times he wanted to end things with her and get back with me, but when she fell pregnant he didn't want to leave another child without both parents, loosing his father has made him more determinded to stay with her. I think with this in mind i will leave him to it. I can not be the one to break up a family unit. so thank you for your advice, maybe I will somehow find a way to get passed this empty feeling.
forever sleepless in london :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): remember the reasons why you and him split? those reasons will happen again if you get back together.
it's tempting to see him in this light since you've haven't been living together for awhile so now you're only seeing his best side, he's on his best behavior (which is NOT how it is when you're living together) and you have kids together, the dream of becoming one big happy family again....
but he has a new family now, with his fiance and their son.
if you and him got back together, his fiance would still be in his life because he has a son with her. and the reasons that caused you and him to split the first time, will come back again.
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