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writes: Everytime i want to go out with the females my husband gets mad and it makes me feel like he only wants me to be friend with his best friends wives what should i do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): You haven't stated it but I bet all of your friends are single. This is why your husband is pushing you to go out with his mates wives. Your husband has probably been cheated on being too trusting in a scenario like this before. The solution is to try to build trust between your friends and your husband. It's not that he doesn't trust you, its that he doesn't trust them not to try to push you into things. Start having a lot more nights over with the girls at your house and show him that they are a nice group of girls. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): I use to be like your husband in a sence.If my partner had plans for a night out they always texted or rung to ask if it was alright by me if they went out.I always said yes off course it is but in reality i wasnt keen.But then i realised at least they had the respect to ask me first if it was ok.I knew i could trust them but something was making me unhappy about them going out.Then i woke up and got over it and now when they have a night out i make arrangements to go out with my friends.Now if they ask if they can go out with their friends im cool about it like what i should of been in the first place.And now ive stopped becoming possesive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): It's hard to make the assumption that your husband is insecure based on your posting. However, your husband may be trying to protect your marriage from outside temptation. If he is upset that you are going to the movies, the mall, dinner, etc. with friends, than I don't see the big issue. However, if you are going out to clubs or other places that are for singles, than I would have to agree with your husband.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 You should tell your husband that you love him, respect him and are only interested in him. Tell him there are lots of other men in the world, about half the population, but he's your guy. Make him feel special and desired by you. But, never stop going out from time to time with your friends. If you give him the power to control you in that way, he'll learn to expect it. He'll think it's his right to supervise your life.
Why shoul dyopu not have friends to go out with. You're you, he's him and together you're a couple but you're not joined at the hip. He sounds insecure.
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Put him straight and don't let him control your life ..thats one thing that anoys me and that is control freaks..he obviously does'nt trust you and he thinks that by only going out with his mates wifes nothing will happen because they will report back..i asume you used to go out with your mates before you met him or even before you got married..even though your married everyone is entiltled to thier own time and freedom..and there is nothing wrong with going on a girly night out letting your hair down and enjoying yourself..explain you feel more comfortable going out with your mates rather then his mates..maybe your friends are single and his scared of what you might get up to ..but if he loves you he should trust you and you need to make him realise that.
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