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writes:Hi i need help ,I'm in a relationship that I see going nowhere, He loves me to bits my family adore him,I think they like him even more than they like me,he is perfect. I cant talk to him ,I don't find his jokes funny ,we cant laugh together ,I never want to have sex with him ,I don't even want to kiss him( inside I'm craving for intimacy ,but not with him.) I'm not in love with anyone else, why cant i break up with him ,do I love him? I have no idea if i love him or not, i just have a feeling that ill miss him a lot if i leave him, even though I want someone who i can talk to,laugh with and have good sex with, or at least attraction. He is very attractive, but I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm also scared my family will be really upset with me and say i'm stupid for letting this good catch go. They always say you'll never find a great guy like this again in your life, you are so lucky, and they are right, But ... why cant i feel anything for him, it's really depressing .. have i just gotten used our life together? we've been together for 3 years and i somehow think i'm a failure without him. i'm 20 and i want to be in love. Reply to this Question
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reader, Polite Fellow  +, writes (4 May 2009):
where as the previous two posts are completely valid. That may well be what you need to do. You do seem to hold him in quite high regard.Is it possible you are just scared of what the future holds the commitment to him. If you're family love him and are accepting him as one of the family you may be worrying that you'd be practically married and you are so young. Its possible you are trying to put yourself off him so you can be free and feel young again.Of course, it is just speculation, only you really know if this is the case or not. If not listen to the others as they are women and women almost always know best. :)
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 You are too young to be unhappy.
Its not his fault or your fault for how you feel, or rather don't feel. But if you string him along because you want the company, then the end result will be your fault ultimately.
You're 20, there will be plenty more catches.Let him go so both of you can find someone who makes you happy. And just let your parents know that he wasn't the one and that you weren't happy or in love with him. Parents just want to see their children be happy, so they shouldn't nag you if you weren't.
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