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writes: I really want sex but every time I have tried I'm too tight and it hurts too much. It's a real problem as I'm so up for it and now I am too worried to have sex because this embarressing problem may happen again! What can I do to help this problem?
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reader, cheeky_minx1987 +, writes (3 October 2005):
you may feel emotionally ready but your body may not be ready for this big step.... once you feel relaxed about what you are doing everything will be fine i speak from experience. after 3/4 times it wont hurt just ask the guy to take things slowly and most of all if u feel in the mood to have sex dont worry because then your body will automatically tense up instead tell yourself that everything is going to be fine and it will be trust me!!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (3 October 2005):
 As you are worrying about this, this will cause your muslces to contract which may make entry difficult.
First and foremost, you need to practise relaxation and realise that if you have an understanding partner, it will not matter if on the next occasion, intercourse doesn't take place. Try mutual masturbation if it happens again.
Being very aroused is the key. Extend foreplay so that you are more aroused. Work out on your own and together what really turns you on. The more aroused you are, the more likely he will be able to have intercourse with you.
You could use lubricating gel which will certainly help him to be able to enter you and will ease your worries and then ask him to be gentle and slow to increase your pleasure of the experience.
It seems you are a virgin so you need an understanding partner who will take his time arousing you and making sure you are ready before he goes inside you.
Talk to him to find ways to make the experience really enjoyable and it won't be long before you will be able to make love without discomfort or pain.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (3 October 2005):
im asumeing your a virgin if so then it hurts every girl on the first time and of course its tight no one is born with their virginia being loose, it would help if you used k.y jelly for example, this is going to sound funny but try it with sum1 whos got a little penise less pain really. it does hurt and you will bleed after but grip on to sum thing when doing it&make sure you are ready. if you are not a virgin then the main thing is relax. when you relax and sum body is turning you on you adventually losen up! if you are already relaxed while doing it then may be you should see your g.p or go to a sex clinic and discuss with them there tell you more! but what you must do is relax,think exotic thoughts while sumbodys touching you at the same time. if youve not long lost you virginitie then maybe its the fact that your body needs time to get use to it but give it time and your be less tight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): OK...
DONT HAVE SEX! First step...if you get close to a guy you can KISS and LET HIM LICK YOU OUT or FINGER YOU - dont have sex and you cant be embarassed
Second...regulary in private finger yourself and use a dildo to slowly stretch it
Thirdly...If you int in a relationship, go meet guys and pick someone with a smallish dick and have sex with them regualry and then find someone with a slightly bigger, and take it in stages
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