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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i've just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship.we always had to do what he wanted to do, everything was always my fault, there were rules on what i could and couldn't do, he took away my property and stopped me from leaving. i feel liberated to be away from him but i do still love him and i just wish he would change back to to the man i fell in love with more than anything in the world. but he doesn't think he's done anything wrong i want him to realise how he's acting but he never listens to me. is there anything i can do at all.
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reader, gemmaxx09 +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Im in a similar situation with my ex, he wants to take control of everything but i wouldnt let him, i kept ending it with him when he tried and then he blamed me for finishing with him. I told him hes the one with the problem not me and he says im over the top and other girls wouldnt end it when he punched walls, shows his arse on the net and got hammered and called me a bitch infront of every1 in a ouse party.
They are always great at the beginning coz he wanted to gain your trust and make sure ud stay with him when he started to get controlling. He probably told you everyting you wanted to hear. If he cannot see that he is the problem and that he is wrong then hes unreachable. Ive tried for months to get my ex to realise hes abusive mentally and is quite threatening but he blames it on me that im more strict than other girls. Dont bother to try and change him, in my experience id rather be with a person that i dont wanna or need to change than waste me time being with someone that cant be the person i want them to be, life is too short to be doing that, your worth way more than trying to change a person lk tht when he gives nuthing back in return
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reader, ez4u2say  +, writes (22 May 2009):
He wasn't like this when you first met because he was good at hiding it. It will not get better only worse. The decision is simple.
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