A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have just recently had a back injury which means i needed more help around the house. Boyfriend hasn't shown much concern and resented the fact that i said the other day how cheeky it was of him to continue to ask me to do things for him. So, he has now taken the stance that he doesn't want me to do a thing for him anymore, like cook, clean and even give him a lift. He doesn't want me to throw it in his face.... CHEEK! Who is the one that has the bad back?Anyhow, I said i cannot live like that (separate lives almost!) He seems adamant that it is what he wants....Any ideas? He admits to being selfish and doesnt care about anyone or thing... I wonder whether its a pride thing...... Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): How long have you been seeing each other and who's house are you staying at? I don't know, sounds like an arse to me ;) Or maybe he's easily insulted and took offense when you called him on his indifference. He's probably hamming it up when he says he's a selfish guy who'll get on without your help (Thankyouverymuch) because his pride IS hurt.
Say you're sorry for that comment or that you made him feel an inch small BUT that you'd really like some help around the house and you can't do it on your own. Plump his ego a bit, play the helpless girl card but NOT too much. Some guys don't want to do things on their own, so you'll have to ask him to work together on some chores.
It might take a couple of days, but I guess when he's down to his last sock he'll give in. In the meantime, take care of your own chores, stuff his dirty laundry into a separate hamper and eat out or at a family's.
|
