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writes:I just transfered to a new school, and I feel great about it. Except for the fact that a certain person won't be there and never will.This particular person is my teacher, well, now ex-teacher. I start school tomorrow at my new school, going into my last year of high school. I'm beginning to miss him. Actually, I've been missing him. For the last two years, going through those two months of not seeing him felt like torture. Now it's even worse, because I probably will never see him again.I mean sure, I could just go over to his neighborhood or give him a call, but I wouldn't have a reason to. This ex-teacher of mine is married, 45, with a son who is eight months old.Recently I had a dream about him. In the dream, I was on a slide, and he was behind me. He called me a slut, and then we slid down and I smacked some mud on his face. Then we started laughing. And that's it.Does this dream have any meaning? In real life, he would never call me a slut. Plus, he wouldn't have a reason to, because I don't sleep around and I've never even had sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNone of those would work. I forgot to mention that he's now working at another school. I know that for a fact, i just have no idea where. He never had the chance to tell me.
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (13 September 2008):
 At least at my school, you can find each teacher's email on the school website. You could try that maybe, or just stop by the school after class and say 'hi' one day.
Would either of those work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow nicole. I never thought of it that way. It is true, in the past I have felt bad about wanting to be with him even though he was married. I really do respect him too much.
That's why I've never done anything, to pursue anything with him. He's a good person. He deserves everything good in his life, and he loves his job.
Everybody likes to flirt, but I do want more with this ex-teacher. But I'd rather have him in my life as just a friend than not having him in my life at all. But I don't have his e-mail, and I can't just walk into his neighborhood and knock on his door.
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (11 September 2008):
Okay, so I'm not sure about the slide, but I'm guessing you subconsciously feel bad about wanting to be with him even though he's married.... In the dream, it wasn't him calling you a slut, it was you. The mud probably implies some sort of dirty connotation, like you would taint his reputation as well as your own. The slide kind of makes me think of a child with her father... maybe you deep down respect him too much to ever pursue something past playful flirtations? I think that might be why you can't find a reason to go over there. It seems like if you had wanted a reason, you would have found it already--I think you just want to stay friends, first and foremost. Try emailing him, telling him what a positive impact he's had on you and that you'd like to stay in touch with him.
Hope things go well for you! Let us know...
x Nicole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear; however if anything I think your dream implies that the feelings you have for your ex-teacher are verging on superficial. In the dream, he insulted you and you threw mud at him (flirtatiously, I assume!) In anything other than dreams and fairytales this certainly wouldn't imply a loving, committed relationship.
However I DO believe your feelings for him are genuine on many other levels: this is shown in how you have missed him since transferring schools. And 2 years is quite along time to continue loving somebody – a significant number of married couples would envy this extent of devotion!
I do also believe you are very mature, which is why your dream confuses me. The implications of your dream seem a little silly and unrealistic in my opinion!
It would seem as if you are hoping for a passionate, playful relationship with this man as opposed to lasting commitment.
The dream also seems to make this man appear younger in your perception of him; which would indicate that you are inadvertently assuring yourself it would be okay (and even possible) for the two of you to have a relationship.
It could be representing your desire for him to return your affections ... or alternatively that you would like to find somebody more available and closer in age who is in many ways similar to your ex-teacher!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): It's soo much easier said than done, but what it comes down to is that you're just going to have to get over your teacher. You didn't say if you had romantic feelings for him or just thought of him as a good friend but i have a feeling it's the former?
It may take a long time to get over him, but it will happen eventually - trust me, i've been there and done that. It might be easier if you get out and meet some guys your own age, sometimes liking someone else helps you to forget about the other person.
Realistically, most probably nothing will happen or will ever had happened anyway between you and your ex-teacher, due to the age gap and the fact that he has a wife and son. This is why you have to get over him, but don't worry, im sure there's someone out there for you who you're more suited to and who will make you happy.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Everytime I have a weird dream that mesmerizes me, I always go to this website:
http://www.dreammoods.com/
It's been very helpful to make me understand some of my dreams. You can also email the owner for her to explain your dream more in depth if you want.
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