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writes:I have this friend and we used to be really close last year, we would hang out every day for a couple of months. Then, one night we started kissing and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him no because I want to get to know him more and asked if he was mad. He said no and I ended up giving him a bj because he begged me for it (I dont really know why, it all happened so fast and I really liked him) Then, it suddenly got awkward and he stopped talking to me and vice versa. Then, this year I ran into him at a party and he wanted to hook up with me again but I had a bf and told him. He was a gentleman and walked me home. I havent seen him in a while but when I finally did today, he invited me to a party at his house. He will probably want to hook up with me again but I like him and want him as a boyfriend. Should I just tell him that I want a relationship and not a hook up? Is there a possibility he would want me as a gf?
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reader, saywwhat  +, writes (31 December 2009):
girl same thing happened to me. i made the mistake and did sleep with him and then he just kept calling me every week for a booty call. I never said yes it was only the one time and now our friendship is ruined. It sucked so make sure he knows your intentions before you go any farther. Hope it all works out!
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reader, sinatrak +, writes (9 January 2009):
You just have to tell him you don't want to be his booty call because thats what it sounds like. Tell him that you really like him and want more.
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reader, lovelynightmare +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Are you completely sure you want him as a boyfriend? It sounds like you have sensible standards but had to lower them for him. And after he gets what he wants he stops talking with you?
Also depends if you still have your other bf, cause that could really complicate things.
But if you're single, examine him to see how he's changed over time (or hasn't) and then make a decision.
Hope things go well,
lovelynightmare
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reader, Aech135 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 If you don't want to just casually have sex with him then don't and don't let him pressure you into it or beg it out of you. If you want a relationship with him try talking to him about it and see if he is interested. If he's not interested in you like that then don't waste your time trying to figure out how to get him. There are plenty of guys out there looking for a girlfriend that will treat you right.
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reader, loguebaby +, writes (9 January 2009):
The same thing happened to me and what happened was him and I were just friends with benefits. I think thats all that is because it just seems strange that he would stop talking to you after something happened between the two of you.
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