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Does having sex for the first time hurt?

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Question - (13 March 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 March 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Does Sex For The First Time Hurt?

Me and my boyfriend Are both virgins and have been talking about sex for a while now.

But im sooo afraid it will hurt! i am not good with pain! i've told him this and he says he doesnt want to rush me.

But i REALLY do want to do it, im just scared, no terrified, i want to know how much it will hurt,

does it hurt him too??

xxx

Thanx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008):

Well, I can answer the last question. No, not unless you kick him in the nuts.

That is why you should never take a guys advice on sex.

better be prepared for it, but accept that if it hurts a lot, it sure as hell won't for him, better think carefully about wether he is good enough to put up with that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

hey..

i disagree with lilmisse.... losing your virginity is different for everyone. with me, it hurt but that was because we didnt take it slow and easy....

my advice is that if you are ready you should go for it. just make sure that he takes it slow (lots of foreplay) and if you dont have some already i would get some lubricant... this will help ease him into you. usually when you loose your virginity it hurts for just a couple minutes, but then feels great.

not everyone bleeds either... i never bled after having sex for the first time, and i know a few others who didnt bleed. you can never be too sure, but just remember that if you do have sex, take it slow and make sure you are really ready and lubricated, that should prevent a lot of the pain that may have otherwise been there!

best of wishes

mariah

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A female reader, lilmisse2424 United States +, writes (13 March 2008):

lilmisse2424 agony auntHello there,

If this is your first time, it will hurt. It might be painful, and if I were you, use protection, in other words, use a condom. You might be bleeding for a couple days then spot because of your hymen lining. I hope this helps you.

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