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writes: Hi All,I was recently in a relationship with a guy I work with, i felt the relationship was dying and the only thing left was to end it which i did but the guy said he was sorry about all the problems and would really like us to get back together. i was quite adamant that we should not rush into getting back together as the main reasons we had broken up had not been resolved. Anyway during this time another guy i work with invited me out for drinks, we ended up kissing the whole night and me spending the night at his.We did not sleep together. The next day at work the guy i had the relationship with confronted me about this guy and called me a slapper for being with this other guy. Have i done anything wrong here? all i did was follow my feelings.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (19 October 2005):
 Following your feelins is fine providing no one else gets hurt.
I think the guy you were seeing was hoping for a reconciliation and you had said about not rushing into anything because the issues hadn't been resolved but that perhaps still sounded to him like you would consider it after a time.
It may have been fairer to say to him that it was over and there were no second chances. Being adamant about not rushing into getting back together again was still allowing him to hope, I'm afraid. He probably thought it could still happen.
He is wrong to call you a slapper and indicates that you were right not rushing into anything with him!
Just be clear with him and if you wish, have nothing more to do with him.
I hope this helps.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (18 October 2005):
You moved on. Nothing wrong there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2005): You have done nothing wrong, you weren't married to this guy, just dating AND you had already broken it off. Sounds like he is jealous and blaming you makes him feel better. Move on and be happy.
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