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writes:I am 21 and have been married for 3 years. I had only been out of high school for a month when I got married. At the time I loved my husband but now I'm not so sure getting married was a smart idea. He hasn't had a steady job the whole time we've been married. He works construction too and tells me he makes over $10 an hour andis supposed to be making like $20 per sqaure when he does roofing. However, he only brings home maybe $200 a week. I make $9 an hour and bring home atleast $500 - $600 every two weeks. This makes no sense to me. Also he has a very bad temper. He gets mad at the littlest thing ex1: me working. He doesn't like for me to work passed 8pm because he has to watch our 2 year old son. When we get into fights we get into fights. He throws things at me, leaves bruises, holds me down, pushes me and the last time he popped me in the mouth. I know I should have left then but I just couldn't. Now he's been talking to girls on Adult Sex Site like where you meet people, talk to them, and meet. Im not sure if he's met any of them but I've seen e-mails and he's wanted to. He tells them he's separated and what he wants like 1-on-1 sex and explicit calls. So when I found that out I confronted him and he told me he was bored. My heart is broken however I stayed because something told me to. Now that I've sat and thought I want to leave but I am too afraid of what he may do. And heres the even bigger problem I think I love another man. I had this best friend in high school. We dated for about a year and broke up mutually. Shortly after this I met my husband. My husband forbids me from talking to this man and it breaks my heart. This other man...I have thought about him every day for the past 4 years and I don't understand why.We hung out this weekend and it was amazing. I really missed him. So now Im stuck between a rock and a hard place. Why do I think about this man constantly? And when I do why does my heart feel like it wants to explode? Does anyone think maybe I married the wrong man? I just don't know anymore. Someone please help me.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow +, writes (17 August 2008):
 Im no genius, Im just a simple 15 year old girl. But everything seems to be pointing towards you need to divorce your husband. I would have your kids stay with a trusted friend before you tell him though. And have someone you trust there with you when you tell your husband.
You don't want to get hurt so don't tell your husband where your kids are or where you are staying. Just leave and get the divorce over with.
And I would start seeing this other man as a friend to start off with. Maybe have him with you when you tell your husband your leaving him.
Be safe
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