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writes:Does anyone have any ideas on how to turn a one night stand into something more or if that is even possible please?I spent one night with this guy and it was really great. I already knew him through a mutual friend, but I only ever see him once a year when he visits my hometown at Christmas. The next day I told him that I wasn’t interested in starting a relationship and that it was just a one off. To be honest this had more to do with self preservation than with my true feelings. I was worried he would reject me and I didn’t want to get hurt. Since that night he has contacted me online and we have been chatting. Through this communication I am getting to know more about him and growing to like him more and more. We haven’t really talked about what happened between us but I would like to bring up the possibility of seeing him again. Any suggestions on how to approach this would be much appreciated or do you think I would just be wasting my time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is an update.
I didn't pluck up the courage to tell him how I felt, in fact I went out of my way to hide my feelings and he has just told me he has met someone else. I guess I left it too late and now I don't think I'll be hearing from him again.
Next time I will take your advice! Thanks.
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reader, sweetone nighter  +, writes (5 May 2009):
I am in a current situation and so I can tell you what works for me. Keep it short and positive to him. Keep it in the moment and say..Thanks for the fun evening we had together you were amazing. Men like to feel like they are the best the king of the hill and trust me they will reply back as towhen you can hook up again if you give it time and patients they will. But then you will have to figure it out from there I have slept with this guy 5 times over 4 months and their is no relationship but we are starting to be friends a little. SOme people just want to be single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all
Thanks for all the positive replies!
I will try and pluck up the courage to see if he will meet up with me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Well if he is still in contact with you then he is still interested in you. I think you have a good guy. Lots of guys would not talk to you if you gave him a negative after a great encounter.He obviously wants you more than you think. Also be more positive about your-self.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): You are making a big mistake by fearing the future and expecting the worst. There is always a possibility that it won't work out, but also that it will.
Agree, it's very unpleasant to be rejected, but why anticipate only bad. You probably had a few bad experiences in the past, but don't project them onto your future. One night stands sometimes turn out into marriage or long term relationship.
My advice would be to be honest with yourself and him, especially after he contacted you. You told him that you are not interested to continue, now you have to take it back. The only way to do it is to ask him to meet. I don't think he will volunteer this himself. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Have you tried saying 'Hey, I would really like to see you again' Obvious but worth a go. If he wasnt still thinking about you, I doubt he would continue to keep in touch. Men can be quite shy so be bold and just ask.
You know what they say 'If you don't ask...'
Good luck and I hope you guys get it together xxx
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