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writes:Does anybody know any where I can go for mental health help. I don’t like talking to GPs, they are so busy, it’s not relaxing to tell your life problems in 10 min slot especially when I feel they want to get rid of me. Speaking to friends doesn’t help, as they don’t understand, and they end up using me without intending to. (If they felt my pain they would of been more considerate) so it’s not their fault. Speaking to family is not an option, they expect great things from me. And if I’m honest I’ve let them down. They don’t say it because they love me. The most biggest change is I don’t feel any different in clothes. I notice people around me make a lot effort but I feel the same. I usually wear the same clothes underneath. No motivation to look good, not because I’m moody but there’s not much to get ready for. I been wearing suits for 10 years for interviews, now I lost my youth, grey hairs and I’m still in same position as I was when I left school. Of course with all these paper degrees which didn’t materialise to anything. Yet the dumb good looking girl with no degree smirks at me at every interview I visit. I’m hitting 30 next year and I am devastated. I can’t switch off my mind. It’s always there, I wonder where the last 10 years went. I devoted my life to building up cv and gaining experience. To find I’m doing nothing. And now tears are rolling down my face whilst writing this. Lol I’m fine, I’m not weak. Just get a bit upset by my own thinking. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2019): Hi Please don't dry, I know there is not much can be said to dry your tears but people do care about other human beings when they hurt.You do sound very down and yes there is help out there for depression but remember also that the way you see yourself can help you a little. Remember we are all UNIQUE individuals and have different times in life that make us and break us. You are going through a dark period and feel like life is passing you by, it's not it's waiting for you to JOIN it. Be brave and MAKE NEW DREAMS, NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER forget that you can CHANGE your life to a positive state of being. First step seek the help you may need, Councillors, therapist, Samaritans, doctor.Do you have any creative interests? or Sporting interests? both these types of activities are scientifically proven to HELP, not cure depression.Paint a new beginning, surprise people, surprise your self. Positive affirmations BELIEVE only the good about about yourself, accept any bad things (we are all human and imperfect). If you don't like your new grey hairs, colour them, restyle revamp renew YOU, be true to yourself. TRANSFORMATION.Please don't be sad anymore the world is your oyster go find YOUR pearl.Hugs from afar please don't cry .
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 October 2019):
 Maybe look into a life-coach?
I know it sounds a little on the "self-help" side but maybe someone who can see you from the outside without knowing you can help you find what you are looking for.
Though I would still suggest you talk to your GP. I know you said you don't want to, but as an adult you sometimes have to do things you don't want to do. See if you can get a referral to a therapist. Because honestly, you sound depressed.(Now I CAN NOT diagnose you, of course, but that is how your post feels. That you have given up.)
And the last option is set some goals for yourself. Don't set unattainable goals, set some smaller ones. Like redo your CV/resume and send out at least 5 applications a week. Start going to the gym (working out will help you with a boost of energy and serotonin).
Stop looking back, look forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2019): I highly recommend checking out therapy apps such as BetterHelp, Talkspace, and Good Therapy. They're more affordable than traditional therapy. Therapists usually reply via text once a day, and you can schedule as many video chat sessions as you would like. I chose the plan which has 4 video chat sessions a month and I only use them when needed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2019): If you can afford it then your best option is private counselling. You don't have to go through your GP and you get to pick someone you like. If you can't afford it then you will have to request it through your GP which can be a real pain as the waiting list is very long and they don't always refer you to the right type of counselling and they'll probably try and fob you off with some pills. "Yet the dumb good looking girl with no degree smirks at me at every interview I visit." Also maybe address your misogynist attitude. Men are more likely to get jobs that they are unqualified for and with less qualifications than women. A woman has to be far far more qualified than a man to beat out his CV. They've literally done research on that so maybe don't play the victim on that card.
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