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writes: Do you think there's something disturbing about a 25 year old guy dating an 18 year old girl?We've been friends for a good while and he's a great guy, but the one thing I've noticed people ask me a lot is, "Uh..what could this man possibly see in a little teeny bopper? Why was he even friends with you before you were 18? That's just weird."I won't say I'm more mature for my age, because I'm probably not. And I won't say he's immature for his age. I don't know how it happened. We just clicked with our personalities.Is it really that disturbing that he'd be interested in me? He's completely the opposite of a "creepy older man" and I don't want people to think that way about him.My friends love him too. Even some people in my family were trying to set us up. The only people who seem to have a problem with it are the people who don't know us.So tell me honestly, does it creep you out or make you uncomfortable that a 25 year old guy would date or be friends with a teenie?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): No i dont think there is nothing wrong with it. because iam 17 and a 22 year old and I are just crazy about each other and he wants to be with me and i love him and he loves me back and we talk about our future all the time and its wonderful! age does not really matter as long as you trust him or her and that it does not get too out of hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): Age doesn't matter. My ex was eight years older than me. It wasn't anything to do with age that broke us up. We were completely wrong for each other from the start and age wouldn't of altered that. You won't notice the age gap as you get older. I think it is great. Enjoy life and the experience he can bring into all aspects of your relationship. Best wishes xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): Not at all, you sound an especially articulate 18yr old girl, don't waste your time questioning the age thing. A more important quality in a relationship is love, or at least respect.
If someone loves you or respects you it does not matter what their age is.
You will encounter some issues that will be related to the age difference. But relationships always hit some kind of issues from time to time. If you're with the right person you get through them, if not, you argue and eventually break up. Don't let 7 years difference have any weight against your relationship. He could be the perfect person for you, you never know!
Have a great relationship :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): Wow, thanks for responding so quick!
Young Aunty--I actually hadn't thought much longterm with him. If it happens that way, then it's fantastic. We've actually discussed marriage & kids (just our ideas about it in general) and he said he doesn't want kids until he's in his 30s, which works out well because I always pictured myself with kids at around 24 or 25.
Regardless of any of that, I know that what I want is to finish college before I settle down with a family. If things work out with him in the future (crossing my fingers) then at least I know we're pretty much on the same page.
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reader, Emzie  +, writes (8 November 2006):
Hiya (i dont normally answer ppls questions cause i can never relate and think id have nothing helpful to say but your question caught my eye cause its something i can definately relate to!!!) just want to let you know that i am 18 (just turned) and my bf is 25, we hav only just got 2gether, same with you we just clicked! it is not creepy or weird in any way! only small minded people would think so and i have had some minor problem with people and their comments! but so what?! im happy and so is he! he treats me right and probably more than any person my own age could cause hes grown up and matture! go 4 it and have fun! (i do!) laugh at people if they think its creepy or whatever! (their probs just jealous anyway!!) Take care!!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): No, but this could be because when I was 19 I met and dated a 29 year old.
I am now forty five and he is fifty five, we are still married and in love.
Personally I find that 7 years is a tiny age gap, especially when you're adults. An eighteen year old may be young, but who's to say that a guy in his twenties can't be on the same level as you?
Just enjoy what ya have deary.
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