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writes: Hi aunts and uncles could do with some advice:I had a conversation with my ex boyfriends friend who I had never met before. He asked me if I still had feelings for him and I admitted that I did. A couple of other of his friends were around at the time, would I be niave to think this information wouldn't have got back to him?. Things between us don't seem to be awkward and we spoke on the phone the other day for nearly an hour(although this isn't unusual when we are on the phone). I also mentioned I may be around the area he works within the next few days and he told me to let him know in advance what day I'll be around so that he is working the day I go up. I have had a feeling there's still something between us, do you think this info has got back to him? If he didn't like what he was told, wouldn't things be quite awkward between us?-especially seeing as he is a shy person. could do with some opinions.thanks!
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Who knows? I would say there is a decent to good chance that the information got back to him, but I would be guessing as much as you are.
The real question is do you want him to know?
If you don't want him to know, then presume he has been told. Then you are prepared to deal with that and have the "Of course I still care about you after all we shared, and I hope we can be friends" type line ready.
If you do want him to know, then presume he hasn't been told. That way you aren't going to get into a silly situation where you think he knows, and if he feel the same he presumes you know, but no one ever does or says anything about it.
It does sound to me like there are probably feelings on both sides, but you can only find out by communicating with each other.
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