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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Sometimes I feel really confused about my stance on relationships. I feel like when I see a couple I think to myself... "Hm thats really cute, must be nice to have something like that" but other times when I get asked out and go on dates I feel like its the biggest waste of time and that i'd rather be with my friends because I feel like i'm missing out on the fun times they're having. Even when I start a potential budding relationship with someone, it seems to be going alright but then I'll start to get irritated with the guy for whatever reason and not want to deal with a relationship. I'm not the type to go for one night stands but I'm wondering if what i'm feeling is normal. I always prioritize my friends over relationships and I can't seem to get into one that I really like. Do you think I'm just not ready for one?
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (6 April 2012):
Only you can decide if you are ready or not. However if you feel like you are missing out on good times while in a relationships then maybe you should put dating on the back burner for now and persue what you feel your missing out on. If you really feel that you are being irrational in a relationship and it bothers you i would suggest maybe seeking counselling or professional advice for your concern. I hope that helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): Perhaps you are not ready for one as you say you feel like you are missing out on the fun with your friends. Are your friends still single and going out and going on holiday together, if so then of course you feel not ready. We usually start to feel ready when most of our friends are in long term relationships.
You seem to be like me in the sense that you are in no hurry to get into a relationship, but maybe you will feel differently when your friends meet somebody and stop hanging out together as much, then the fun kinda dies down, sadly thats what happens but that is usually how it goes.
Don't worry so much, just enjoy being with your friends and be open to meeting guys. It could turn into a relationship unexpectedly or you might suddenly feel you really want to be in a relationship. Let it happen naturally. You'll know when the time is right and when you meet the right person.
Good luck.x
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