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writes:So I've had two really good friends for almost a year now. They seemed like really great people that I am somewhat compatible with. One of those friends got dismissed from the college so she wasn't able to join us this semester. She came to visit this weekend and I noticed that the two of them isolated me from conversations and interactions. They picked and prodded at me together and I felt really uncomfortable. So, I tried to stay away from them. After the first day I thought it was just a fluke. You know, two friends who haven't seen each other in a while, getting reaquainted. We went out together the following night. I thought we would be going to a real party so I got dressed up. Both of them went quiet when I was finished. The friend who had been gone for a while looked at me with a sad sort of envious look and I didn't understand. I thought we were just going out. As we were walking I noticed they weren't waiting for me. It was almost like I was alone. The entire night the sectioned me off by myself. The following day they didn't call me and I had no idea where they were. Then I find out they actually went to a party and hadn't even called me to see if I wanted to join them. They kept me away from a party the night before. They were really hush hush about what happened at the party and then proceeded to exclude me and another friend from the entire conversation. Do you think I should try and salvage this friendship or just let it go? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2012): She is! The one who is still here with me acts like nothing happened. Since the week has started up and its getting colder, I've been dressing sort of drab. :/ She gives me this squinty smile now. I can't do this. I'm tired of her. I'm tired of this. My other friends say I' overreacting but I don't think I am. You just don't treat people like this. I've only tried to raise there spirits and all they do is trample mine. I think I'm going crazy.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 October 2012):
 Salvage what friendship? There is nothing to salvage.
The one who is still back at the college I would dump too. I can just imagine her being all buddy-buddy after the "friend" went back home, that would be a total no-go for me.
Neither of them have any concept of what a true friend is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): This is kids behaviour, and if I were you I'd leave them to it.. They have been down right rude and openly ignorant to you... What is there left to salvage ?
I'd move on give them as much thought as a thrown away rubbish.. They are not friends and by their behaviour have never been..
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 October 2012):
 You are at the time in your life where this type of thing starts happening more frequently than what we'd like. Friends sometimes grow apart, develop issues, or just realize they no longer have anything in common once everyone starts going to college.
I would probably let it go. If one or both of them want to be your friend, they will get back with you. It sounds like they are both jealous of you...which is why all the snide comments and nasty looks. You simply do not need people like this in your life. Enjoy your time at college. You will meet a lot of new people there who will be of higher quality than these two.
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