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writes:How do you know if someone's right for you? Personally the idea of spending the rest of my life with any one person seems impossible, but at the same time, I really like the idea of settling down with someone and having kids. My brother, who knows me better than anyone, says he can't imagine me ever settling down. Even in my relationships that have lasted years I've always just known I wouldn't stay with them forever. The guy I'm with now is lovely and I don't yet have that definite feeling that it won't last - is that enough? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): To be honest, I don't think there is any way of knowing whether someone is right for you or not. I was once in a relationship which I thought would last forever, and it didn't. Quite the opposite, it ended very badly indeed. I used to wonder after whether to trust my feelings about future relationships or not, but now I think there is just no real way to know how something will turn out. The only way to find out is to be in the relationship, and wait and see!
I think that as long as you don't have any "bad feelings" about the relationship or the person you are with, and as long as you are happy, then that is what matters really. Trying to look into the future and question whether you will settle down with this person or not, I think that can just create worry and stress. Every relationship is different, so maybe you could just try and enjoy it, and see what happens! You might be pleasantly surprised! Good luck. x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2010):
You know when you're with someone that you want to be with, because that feeling you have of not being able to settle down with one person disappears and is replaced with the feeling that you just want to be with them. If you've not felt it yet, then you've not met the guy. See how it goes with this new guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): There never will be a guaranty of “Happily ever after” or “Forever”.
I have been married for over 18 years to a good man. Know him over 21 years in all.
All my friends and my family still laugh about me. I never would have children. I swore for years. I’m a mother of two now.
He was the first/ only man I could see myself having children with.
But was it easy? No!
It takes hart work to stay married, not to let the little or even the big things break you apart.
Is he still the same man I married so long ago. No. He changed. I changed. That’s life. Nothing stays the same. But that’s good; you do not want to be at the same place 10 years from now.
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