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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together fo almost two years, i love him a lot and I know he loves me. We have through so much, or more like he has been through so much in the past few years and because of me he was doing a lot better, Im only 19 and he is 24, the last three months i felt that there was something wrong, i knew it in my heart so we were constantly arguing. I tried to break up with him a few times during those last three months but he never let me. Finally last week i found out he was cheating on me with a girl for three months. my heart was crushed and i was angry but the miniute he walked out the door i knew we would get through this, i had already forgiven him. The next day he calls me from his mother house crying and apologizing. We both know we need time, he still calls me everyday and we talk just to see how each others day has been. We are not together and we dont see each other, he wants to be with me and i wish i never found out. Could he really regret what he did, really love me still?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): i personally wouldn't trust him. 3 Months is a very long time.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (16 November 2007):
 If this had been a one night stand I think you could let it go, but three months is a lot of time. He didn’t just stumble onto this other girl. He sought her out for a consistent amount of time.
If you can forgive him, that’s one thing; but really, he’s bound to do it again. And because he got away with it for so long a time before you caught him, he will think he can do it again.
So take that into serious consideration. I don’t think his love for you is as true as you or even he believes. Of course he went crying back to you. You’re his number one…but that doesn’t make you his “exclusive” number one. If you were his one and only number one girl he never would have even thought of cheating on you.
This is how guys think: If we can get way with it we try to have as many relationships with as many women as we can. This is why in some cultures you have harems. It’s our nature as guys to want and desire a variety of women. This is a fact many women refuse to believe about us guys. To know this, that we desire a variety of many women, is key to understanding how we think. This is something we are born with and you have to accept this.
That being said it’s not impossible for a guy to settle for one special woman. And with that one special woman he could be absolutely true and faithful to her, and that’s huge considering that man’s nature is to desire more than one woman.
Sadly, I have to observe because he has already cheated on you, you are not his one special woman. You are just the one woman he’s keeping around until a better one or the ONE woman comes along. So you seriously have to consider that he will cheat again, because he knows he can do it, and it’s in his nature.
I don’t see a good future for you two together. If you feel you love him enough see where it goes, but his betrayal of you should be putting you on guard now, and that can’t be good either.
I’m not a psychic, but I think he’s going to cheat on you again.
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