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writes: Hi Guys,I'm just curious, how common is it for men in their 20s to cheat in long term relationships?If my very outgoing boyfriend who wants to be with me "for a long time" says he'll never cheat, what do you think are the odds he will fall prey to temptation? He's 20 years old. I've been hurt before so I just want some idea I guess of how common it is. Can a twenty year old guy really know what he wants? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I was one of those twenty year olds that new what he wanted. It depends so much on the individual's maturity, and not his age.
If he says he won't, then you have to trust him. if you don't trust him, then there is no sense in being with someone, because the vibes you give off, he will sense, and eventually he will find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Not all guys cheat. A lot don't. Some never ever will, because they are morally opposed to it. There is a good chance you are with a good guy, I would assume that he is one rather than that he isn't. Never assume the worst.
I speak as a 27 year old guy who has been with the same girl since I was 16. I have never kissed, slept with, fooled around with, etc. ANY other girl. I don't flirt with other women, I don't watch porn (unless it's with my girl) and I don't keep secrets from her. I love my girlfriend (soon to be fiancee) more than anything in the world and no one night stand would ever be worth it. I have "known" that I wanted to marry her since I was like... 18? And because I know that she is the one for me, I have had no trouble staying faithful. I have met other women who were interested in me, but I just told them the truth- I wasn't interested in them because I have found the woman I want to be with.
So... I know that a lot of young guys are assholes who have no sense of who they really are, and these are the ones who will cheat on their girlfriends rather than ending the relationship when they fall out of love. I suppose I am a bit different from the majority of guys because I truly believe that my girlfriend is the most beautiful woman alive, and she is also the smartest, and funniest, and overall the most compatible with me. Most people settle, but if you really love someone you won't feel the temptation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): You can never say that someone will not cheat, some blokes just cannot help themselves, unfortunately. We also can do nothing to stop it either, no matter how much we love them, or they say they love us. You just have to put the whole idea out of your head and enjoy all that the two of you have together. You may be lucky and have a faithful guy. I hope you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Well, this is hard to judge because there are so many things out there in this world that shock us all every day. I heard on the news the other day about a 73-year-old Russian man that held his daughter (and his daughter's 7 children) prisoner in their own home for 24 YEARS. When things like this happen, how could you guess the chances of being safe with a partner that won't cheat?
It's not about statistics, it's about his personality, and the faith you have in him. It's awful to be hurt, I understand that, but not all guys are like that. You've got to be willing to forget about your past, and give this guy a fair chance.
I see what you mean, when you ask if a 20-year-old can really know what he wants, but you'd be surprised. A lot of guys would - although a lot of guys wouldn't. You have to trust and have faith, because I'd say most guys wouldn't cheat, it's just the bad few that would. At a guess, maybe about 15% cheat? I don't know. Maybe more, maybe less. But you can't predict the future honey. Have faith. Good luck.
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