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writes:I started seeing a guy a few months back and I thought he was lovely but it was nothing serious. At the time I was still really good mates with my ex and a few times he came round and it felt like we were still together, we ended up having sex and although I felt guilty, it happened a few times after that while i was still seeing the other guy. After a couple of weeks I felt so bad and told my ex I didnt want to see him anymore. I carried on seeing the lovely guy and didnt tell him what had happened. we became more and more serious, and now 5 months later we're still together. he is truely amazing and im happier than ive ever been, but occasionally i feel like i should tell him what happened at the start of our relationship...Is it wrong to keep it quiet now that we're so in love or is it best not to mess up our relationship over something that was stupid and happened before we really got to know each other? I know for a fact i would never cheat on him now we've got to know each other...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): As long as you weren't exclusive at first, which sounds like you were not, I wouldn't worry about it. Don't burden him with your guilt.
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reader, passionatelynumb  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 As long as you and your current boyfriend weren't in an exclusive relationship at the time, I wouldn't say anything to him unless he asks.
Unless you want to risk causing him an unbelievable amount of emotional pain, I would highly advise that you do not volunteer this information to him.
It is very likely, especially if he has a mild sexual past, that this information will do a number on him. It could really hurt and cause him to question things unnecessarily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): I wouldnt tell him! Its only going to hurt him in the long run. Just put it out of your mind move forward and dont make the mistake again. In the beginning of my relationship with my now husband I had a one night fling with an ex. I never told him bc it didnt mean anything to me. Certainly not enough to bring it up to him and cause him pain. I hope this helps :-)
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