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writes: This is not a serious problem as some of the other ones I have read here. I am an outgoing and friendly person but I wonder if I give off not so good vibes to other people. I was out for dinner with people I had just met last week and one guy at the table was really snarky with me and I had just met him and it hurt. People respond to my friendliness but step back when I talk to them....they want to keep distance. I am hurt and confused by this....any insight and advice would be so appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): Thanks to the people who responded. I will keep in mind your advice.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (8 December 2006):
 Hi, please do not panic. It not always be you, perhaps the other guy as having an off day or with bad vibes himself.
Try to remember what you say when you provocate a reaction, perhaps your sense of humour is to strong, you say that you are outgoing, may be you come across over confident, some people may confuse that with arrogance.
If you have a close friend you can ask him/her if they notice this too.
It may be something really simple which you can work on. But you do not ask, you will never find out.
I have friend that is very paranoid when he socializes, even with close friends. Because he was hurt in the past, not so nice friends slagged him off and he heard it, he seems to think that people do not like his company.
The fact that you are aware of this situation, just shows taht you care about other people, this is a good thing to have. xxx
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (8 December 2006):
 Hi anon, you haven't mentioned what you say to put people off.
But my guess is that you are either forward or just very confident, in either case I will say that you should think about what you say before you say it.
Just remember that some people will always be touchy and that your confidence is a good thing.
Having said that you wouldn't feel hurt and want to change if there was nothing you could do about it. So measure up the situation and how you should respond to it.
Let us know how it goes.
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