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writes: im so confused right now, i started seeing a guy a few months a go and everything was going great, then he went to see his son (obviously his ex was there) and since he got back hes been different with me, not contacting me as much or when he does its breif, weve seen eachother since he got back and everything was fine and i thought he might have been getting back to himself but then i didnt here from him for a couple of days and when we next spoke it was as if he didnt really want to speak to me so i asked him out straight if everything was ok and told him i thought he'd been different with me for a while, he apologised and said he'd been busy and had stuff on, as its still kind of casual between us i told him we didn't have to see eachother again if thats what he wanted but he said it wasnt, he does want to see me but he just wants to calm things down a bit whilst he sorts his head out and hasnt contacted me since, to me i feel as though that maybe thats it but why didn't he just say ok when i said maybe we should end things, or maybe he does want to calm things down?? and i can understand maybe he's not completely over his ex yet and seeing her as just made him confused but he's not talking to me about it and i dont want to contact him because i want to give him the space he needs but im missing not talking or seeing him and i hate not knowing where i stand, i can understand calming things down but not talking at all feels more like turning things off!! i guess i just want someone else perspective on this, am i being completely stupid by hanging around for something that has already ended, or do i give him the space he needs hoping he's going to come back to me when hes sorted his head out?? help!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 He is walking in a fog and does not know which direction to head. His emotions are not stabilized and it will take some time before the fog in his brain will clear up.
If you are looking for a relationship , he is not the right material .You can be only friends for now.
Go out with your friends and enjoy your life and keep your options open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies, he contacted me yesterday and apologised for the way he's been but he also said that he's not ready for a relationship and he didn't want to give me the wrong signals but then he also said he enjoys spending time with me so he doesn't really know what he wants, i said i enjoyed his company too, so im still just as confused. i do enjoy spending time with him, its always fun, we get on really well, so do i continue to spend time with him knowing its not really going to go anywhere? which for know i actually wouldn't mind that becuase im not ready for a relationship myself but what if i get to involved emotionally and then have to walk away? but then again i think the ride will be worth the fall if that does happen! he's been honest with me, which means a lot. i think im just going to play it cool now, wait til he gets in touch and be open to other offers. what do you guys think??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): I am going through the SAME thing.. minus the ex and the child. I'm so confused and i offered him a way out... He didn't want it, yet things are so different between us. We havn't even talked.
Whatever the answer is, i need to know it. lol
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